When your friendship experiences relationship hiccups, how you navigate through it solely depends on the kind of person you are and your friend. Remember, not everyone can deal with the flaw of another because you are also an imperfect being with a flaw of your own.
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For instance, you may discover that your friend is a blatant liar, ask yourself, can I cope with being friends with a liar? If yes, what can you do as a true friend to change and improve that attitude of your friend?
Firstly, you have to be willing to accept him or her with their flaws.
Secondly, you have to come up with viable ways to make him or her to slowly desist from lying.
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Thirdly, you have to encourage him or her to say the truth rather than lie about something.
Fourthly, be a force to be reckoned with for your friend, let him or her believe he or she has someone that will always have his or her back in any situation, so far she tells the truth.
In that way, your discovery of his or her flaws has paved way for him or her to build his or her strength against lying about every little thing. Your minor setback has been successfully handled with your determination to make your friendship work out for the best.
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Furthermore, romantic relationship with another individual is one of the most difficult relationships to sustain because the coming together of two different individuals born and raised in different backgrounds with different ideologies to become one is nothing but an art of tolerating and accommodating each other’s flaws and differences.
Suzy Kassem, a relationship expert wrote on Goodreads that “Treat your relationship as if you are growing the most beautiful sacred flower. Keep watering it, tend to the roots and always make sure the petals are full of colour and are never curling. Once you neglect your plant, it will die, as will your relationship”.
It means a romantic relationship with another person you choose to commit your all to, must be treated as if someone is growing the most beautiful sacred flower, you need to keep watering it with love, kindness, understanding, tolerance, endurance, hospitality, acceptance and appreciation of each other while you learn the act of forgiveness. You need to tend to the root of any underlying issue you may have whenever there is a hiccup in your relationship.
As an individual in a romantic relationship with another person, you must learn the act of communicating and expressing your innermost feelings, because trust me, your partner is not a mind reader that you expect him or her to know what you feel and how you feel when you fail to communicate. Both partners need to ensure that the relationship is full of colour (intimacy, kindness, caring attitude) despite the lapses they may experience in the course of their relationship.
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The hiccups should be promptly taken care of in order to maintain and sustain their beautiful relationship.
Whatever flaws you discover during your hiccup moment in your relationship should be dealt with if not, it should be managed to suit both partners, in as much as it is a flaw they can both live with if properly managed.
Vritralrish, a relationship expert wrote on his WhatsApp relationship group platform that ” you accept a relationship as long as it is healthy, loving, full of life and hope. If it is toxic, hurting and not assuring, you are not obliged to stay in such a relationship, love yourself to the point of saying No to the relationship that doesn’t strengthen you”.
In essence, if you are in a relationship that doesn’t value you, kindly reevaluate your relationship with them.
According to a relationship write-up on Goodreads, humans experience “The Anatomy of Conflict” in their relationship with others. Relationship hiccups breed conflict in any relationship you form with another individual but to learn to scale through it is by mastering the art of communication.
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Shannon L. Alder describes the Anatomy of Conflict; ” if there is no communication then there is no respect. If there is no respect then there is no caring. If there is no caring then there is no understanding.
If there is no understanding then there is no compassion. If there is no compassion then there is no empathy. If there is no empathy then there is no forgiveness. If there is no forgiveness then there is no kindness. If there is no kindness then there is no honesty. If there is no honesty then there is no love.if there is no love then God doesn’t reside there.if God doesn’t reside there then there is no peace. If there is no peace then there is no happiness. If there is no happiness then there is conflict because there is no communication.
In conclusion, every relation formed with others is hinged on the willingness of an individual to accept another individual be it in family, friendship, classmates, colleagues, neighbors and acquaintances in the journey of life.
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